Now, if you came across this blond girl swiping your flowers, here's what you might assume:
This girl is a real jerk.
But what you wouldn't know, is that I only ever take a few stems, and that I do it because when I was a little girl, my sisters and I used to steal lilacs from the neighbour's tree to bring home to Mom. And though she told us it was wrong to take them, our trailer filled with the sweet smell and we knew Mom was secretly touched.
Every day, people around us do assy things. They cut in front of us in line, they take the last remaining seat on the streetcar, they talk too loudly when we're trying to read. And it's easy to be frustrated or angered by their thoughtlessness. But we can't make assumptions about where they're at. I'm not advocating for bad behavior, just suggesting that people's stupid moves are not really about us.
And it's best not to assume. Anything really.